To think that anybody is ever “deserving” of misfortune, pain, suffering, death, etc., is to fundamentally misunderstand them, and it’s also, in my opinion, philosophically unjustifiable to issue retribution
I mean, you have to admit that (a) it causes harm to another, and (b) there’s actually no justification for it that I’ve -ever- seen anybody able to make beyond vague things like, they ‘deserve’ it or ‘they had it coming’ or ‘it’s justice/balance/payback’. Two wrongs don’t make a right; that’s not justice or balance. To paraphrase ‘Batman Returns’, justice is about harmony. Revenge is about making yourself feel better.
The entire basis of revenge is really sweet hatred and bitterness, which are really just vile, destructive emotions.
And we make exceptions for when we understand them well enough to know that, in their particular case, there are reasons they are the way they are, i.e., that’s it’s not their fault, but the truth is that ever thinking there aren’t sufficient reasons is always a case of lack of understanding.
Whatever the reasons they do something, they can of course only boil down to “nature”, “nurture,” and free will (for those who believe in free will; and for those what don’t, whatever business do you have blaming someone anyway?), and the “nature” of someone itself is also due to reasons, such as genetics, or if they have a soul, then to past-life circumstances (“nurture”) and decisions (“free will”), and the idea that they deserve it because of the choices they made out of their own free will doesn’t really hold up either, because you have to ask, if you have free will, and they have free will, but they use their free will in a way that you never would, then what’s to account for that? Again, that’s further “reasons” (and/or possibly meaningless randomness, but meaningless randomness isn’t blamable either).
The above arguments should be sufficient in and of themselves, but just in case it helps, I also suspect that the reason people condemn others is that they instinctively attempt to put themselves into their shoes and think, “well, If I were to do that, I would be committing a serious betrayal,” but the truth is that we can never adequately put ourselves into another’s shoes to account for the true differences in mind between them and you; it’s all projection.
In Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch, it says, “Nobody ever does anything wrong given their own model of the world.” You may think, well, that’s not true, because I’ve done plenty of things I thought were wrong, but it’s not that simple: you ultimately thought it was right for some reason to do something despite considering it ethically or morally wrong, or you wouldn’t have done it–either that or you just couldn’t help yourself, which isn’t a matter of free will.
‘Have you ever wondered how you might behave in someone else’s shoes? If you have, you’ll likely admit that this kind of thinking is usually critical of the person of the person you’re thinking about. The truth is, you are the other person, and they are behaving exactly as you would if you were indeed in the exact same shoes–however inconsiderate, abusive, outrageous, or immoral their behavior is.’
‘True, you are probably more thoughtful, fearless, loving, and honest than those who disappoint you. But you are also at a different point in your journey, maybe “more advanced,” or maybe just more at ease for having chosen a less “challenging” path. We’re all of “one,” exhibiting different colors of the same light, and rather than passing judgment, it’s best to remember that each of us is just doing the best we can.’
-Mike Dooley, ‘Choose Them Wisely: Thoughts Become Things!’
Oh, I forgot to mention one thing: whenever I hear the heartfelt cries and pleas of someone who’s being punished or going to be punished for something wrong they did, I can’t help but have compassion for them, and I know that that feeling is right. It’s not just having a “bleeding heart”, you can never have too much of a bleeding heart, and I know that I shouldn’t override the heart with thoughts anyway, at least/especially when what the heart feels is forgiveness or compassion and what the thoughts are are bullshit negativity. And also, the fact that they care about their own value and wellbeing (on such a heartfelt, universally human level) so much is proof in some way, to me, that they really are worthy.
